Do ya'll remember being younger? Do you remember how mean kids were? Maybe you were even the mean kid? I know that I was both on the giving and receiving side of bullying. It's hard to admit that, but I think most of us can relate. When I learned that I was having a girl, I had a little bit of an emotional breakdown. I knew how rude girls could be.
When I was in elementary school, I went to a Jewish religious day school where our school uniform was skirts below our knees. During P.E we were able to switch into our shorts, but immediately had to switch back into our skirt after class. During P.E one day the 'mean girls' actually flushed my skirt down the toilet... like, wtf? I think we were like 9. What in the world, right?
Now, that I am a mom, I am starting to see where this behavior comes from. Where bullying originates and how kids develop such habits. It's us ya'll. It's the parents. When our kids see us talking poorly about someone, making fun of someone, degrading someone, yelling at someone etc... they mimic these behaviors. Not only that, but if you don't ever discipline your child, if you praise them like they are god's gift to earth, that is how they are going to act. It starts in the home you guys.
Last year, my step-son had a kid in his class that was picked on. I felt for the kid. I really did. Ethan would tell us all kinds of stories about him and how the kids, even the teacher weren't very nice to him. That's when I took the opportunity to talk to Ethan about bullying. How not only should we be nice to everyone, but we also need to stand up for the kids that are being bullied. I told him that he didn't need to be his friend, but he did need to be nice to him.
It's important to talk to our kids about disabilities, inclusion and acceptance. It's also important, that we ourselves implement positive behavior so that our children can mimic the good. I know it's a difficult topics, but it needs to be addressed. As a parent, we don't ever want our children to feel hurt. We don't want our kids to feel the pain of bullying. We don't want them to suffer from the affects of it. My point is that if we don't want our kids to experience this, we shouldn't want other kids to feel it either. Just remember that our kids are more aware of what is going on than we think they are. Use that to your advantage and set a good example.
Kids are the future. If we want them to live in a better world, we need to help them create it.