When my husband and I met, I was only 20 and he was 26. We met at a bar via some friends and the rest is history. This post isn't about my husband though. It's about the packaged deal he came with. That packaged deal was an ex-wife and a 2 year old. Ya'll I was 20... I was eating frozen pizza every night, sleeping in until 2:00pm and laundry wasn't a word in my vocabulary. All of a sudden there was a 2 year old in my life. Like, what? Well, let my tell you guys... I had to learn a lot.
They say that your 'person' helps you grow and be a better version of yourself (which my husband totally does) but, my step-son really was the one to do that. All of a sudden my life was more about Ethan than myself. Welcome to motherhood, right?
I quit my job bartending, stopped sleeping in until 2:00pm, learned (slowly) how to cook, figured out how to do the laundry, quit smoking... and Wreck It Ralph was my new favorite movie. Side note: PIXAR is life you guys.
Being a step-mom has been an amazing and life changing challenge. Yes, a challenge. It's hard to love someone like your own and then be reminded that your just the step-mom. When I say "be reminded" I'm not talking about the "your not my real mom." line you see in the movies. It's the little things. Like picking him up from school, and not being on the pick-up list... or a trip to the doctor and the front desk staff reiterates (a dozen times) that I'm not his legal guardian or parent. Like I didn't know?
My step-son is a gift from God. He is so mature for his age, he is smart as can be, he has such a kind soul. I could go on and on. I swear I hit the lottery with this one. I am incredibly blessed. Did I mention he is hilarious and delivers his jokes like a really good stand up comedian?
I know that a lot of ya'll moms aren't so lucky. You struggle with the ex-wives, your step kids can be difficult.... I know. I just wanted to remind you ladies that anyone who takes on someone else child to call their own, is an amazing human being. Keep doing what your doing. When the kids are old enough to understand and see your love and sacrifices (that you didn't have to give or make) they will appreciate you. Be the bigger person. You are strong and you are brilliant. I admire you.